Most men don’t lose their fire in a single blow. They lose it quietly. One unmade decision at a time. One distracted night. One disengaged conversation. That’s apathy.

Apathy feels safe. It lets you coast. But the cost is your soul.

In Iron John, the boy must dig into the ashes to find the hidden ember. It is still there. Buried. Waiting.

Apathy tells you your fire is gone. The truth is — it’s waiting to be reclaimed.

Here’s how:

  • Name it. Where are you drifting?
  • Trace it. When did you first fall asleep?
  • Trade it. What’s the lie you believed?
  • Act. What’s one small fire you’ll tend this week?

Because your children don’t need a man who coasts. They need a man who burns.